I was a few years into my career when the project manager on one of our biggest clients left the company. At the time, I was the actuarial analyst on the account. I waited about… a day. Then I walked into my boss's office and asked, "Do you have someone in mind to take on that role?" He said no. I said, "I'd like the opportunity." He paused, thought about it, and said, "I hadn't thought about that, but actually, that's a great idea."

And just like that, I stepped into a bigger role. And it changed the course of my career.

It wasn't that my boss didn't believe in me. But he was busy — he had multiple clients and team members to manage. And like most leaders, he wasn't constantly thinking about how to help me grow. That part was on me.

It's easy to assume that if you work hard and do a great job, someone will notice. Sometimes they do. But more often, they're juggling too much to connect the dots. And if you don't raise your hand, the opportunity might pass you by.

Taking on that project manager role gave me a front-row seat to every part of the client relationship — strategy, communication, presentation prep, exposure to executive leadership. That stretch became a launchpad.

And for many of us — especially women — that kind of self-advocacy can feel uncomfortable. We're often taught to be team players, to wait our turn, to not ask for too much. But the truth is: no one will manage your career for you. That's not a flaw in the system — it's a reminder that we have agency.

HOW TO START

Look for gaps before you're asked. See something that needs doing and think, "Why not me?" Start the conversation — let your manager know what you're curious about or ready to try. Keep a list of your wins — not to brag, but so you're ready when the moment comes.

Your career is yours to lead. You just have to speak up.